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Awareness and Mindfulness

Posted by: Nina on: October 2, 2012

In: Entertaining | Healthy Body | Healthy Home | spirituality & wellness
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Unforgettable

Posted by: Nina on: September 30, 2012

In: Cats and Dogs | Entertaining | Healthy Body | Healthy Home | spirituality & wellness
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Tags: birth family, Blues Music, caretaking, chosen family, community, Country Music, crooners, forgetable, friends, looking out for each other, map of relationships, network, online community, relations, someone to watch over me, support system, Unforgetablle, vocalists, watchers

perspective

Posted by: Nina on: September 28, 2012

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why would you want to go down with someone else’s ship. in a self made disaster no less

they are never going to appreciate you for your effort

your needs never get met if you don’t put them first and make you a priority

the first rule of emergency preparedness of rescuers is to keep themselves safe

so apply that principle to mental health and self care-taking.

One can help people – more effectively and even more people, when your own needs are at or closest to 100% taken care of, not running at 70%

part of that is helping but not getting emotionally involved with the person and their problem, even while solving it

it’s about maintaining an awareness of your sphere of influence and span of control – compared to your actual responsibility in the situation

it’s okay to go above and beyond, but that needs to be acknowledged and not taken as their due.

imagine a social org chart box; remember what your relationship to them is

how that fits in the hierarchy and web of all your relationships

perspective, it’s a wonderful and magical thing sometimes

Tags: above and beyond, acceptable responsibility, acknowledgement, appropriate role, boundaries, collegues, family, freindships, friends, gratitude, interconnectedness, modeling behaviour, network, org chart, peers, relationships, responsibility, social strata, sphere of influence

Regaining your sense of self

Posted by: Nina on: September 19, 2012

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there’s really nothing like trauma to cause you to really take stock of yourself as a person.

Tags: artist groups, artist support, community groups, friends, friendships, Lisa Smedman, network, performance, personal networks, professional networks, script reading, work and play well with others

Relationships take many forms, can transform or be transformative

Posted by: Nina on: September 18, 2012

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Poetic Justice can be poetically playful…..when you’re a poet anyway

Posted by: Nina on: August 31, 2012

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agoraphobic philosopher says

I say what I mean I mean what I say
I am not mean to ruin your day
you’ve misunderstood what I say

consider there’s considerations at play
sun above earth below another day
blue moon tonight howl and bay

I enjoy the Cowboy Junkies most haunted version of this song and while Elvis was hardly the only one who recorded that song, I think his is the most heart rendering version. Sorta like kd lang’s Halleluh is the best version of the Leonard Cohen song, because only her version captures the rapture and the kink subtext of the bible story.

so really, as a writer, I can tell you that you can’t really understand anything until you can understand the subtext and nuances.

and, as a person in trauma recovery. I can also tell you all that unless a person can understand nuance and subtext…. You really can’t understand anything around you.

In some ways, having people treat you like you are normal is the worst thing ever, because you are not normal and your responses are not normal and your understanding of what’s going on around you is not normal. Your perceptions are altered and it’s difficult for people who have not been through trauma or depression to understand that.

I am grateful every day to my roommates Rhonda and Lorne who support and accommodate my strange behaviours and remind me every day of who I used to be and they celebrate with me, throughout the day, the person that I have now become.

I am grateful every day to my online support system of friends too, some of whom I have known for almost 20 years over various sites, http://www.zoetrope.com and http://www.thewritersbuilding.org! YEAH WRITERS and more recent friends on Facebook of all places.

Yeah facebook! cheaper than therapy, but not as fun as bubble wrap! LOL