Posts Tagged ‘acknowledgement’
Ying Yang
Posted on: November 2, 2012
Breathing out Recovery
Posted on: October 25, 2012
Two things that I found helpful in my recovery process:
Words
I found reversing the Orwellian language concepts useful to rebuild understanding
the idea of using a small subset of words and then modifying them with double, plus – instead of using other words to indicate magnitude was really helpful to me to maintain clear communication
until I could start to understand the nuances of difference between words
and words with multiple meanings – as well as orders of magnitude of intensity.
when words became overwhelming and lost all meaning
because what was being said to me was not truth
and was not intended or any comfort
it was all about silencing me
words were lost to me
until I took them back
Acknowledgement
I do “YAY ME” or “CELEBRATE ME”
to indicate happy with me or proud of me
for any, every and all reasons to be happy or proud of me
the important thing is to acknowledge yourself
so, dearest readers, please use any of the tools I created for me – for you too
because these self talk tools really do help and form a critical part of any self esteem recovery process…
but also, sharing those tools with others helps me feel valuable
feeling valuable becomes being valued
and really, that’s the heart of self esteem. valuing yourself.
Your nature is your family tree
Posted on: October 10, 2012
while your nurture is the particular family in a given generational point in time.
so much depends on the quality and the variety in the environment.
Children who are effectively stimulated, challenged and encouraged will be more socially capable and thrive better than children raised in homes that limit their intellectual develop and exposure to …. well everything.
I was treated as a mini adult at home. While that did make me stand out from my peer group, it was a comfortable place for me – a pertepetual outsider to be.
On every scale of measurement, I so never feel into normal ranges or averages.
so it’s little wonder that when people have tried to hold me to those compartively low standards…
well, it’s depressing to be praised for your work, when you know exactly how little effort it took to accomplish it.
the goals that we set for ourselves are often more lofty and satisfying than any goal set by other people.
Acceptance – just accept it
Posted on: August 22, 2012
Living Well 