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Living with social anxiety and panic disorder

Posted on: October 3, 2012

Dearest Readers

 

Being an agoraphobic with social anxiety and panic disorders still has it’s social challenges.

While there is certainly more control of online relationships – it’s very easy to block people you have no reason to deal with on Facebook after all.
You will still from time to time come into contact with people there’s no reason to talk to.

 

Random Stranger encounters do not have to be upsetting in any way, because random strangers are simply not relevant to you or your self management. so when you encounter a person who is less than supportive or who is not capable of communicating with you in a manner that is meaningful or interesting – it’s a very simple matter to leave the conversation.

 

Either simply stop posting or find a civil way to exit – and to my mind, leaving a conversation by backing out be degrees of disenagement – actually is a good way to deal with the momentary anxiety of unexpected potential or actual conflict.

 

Now in this example, there was no conflict on my end and this did not cause me to have a panic or anxiety attack the way it would have reduced me to tear two or three months ago.

 

I knew from the second line of text that this was not a person that I was interested in talking to – and once he went on the defensive and attacking me – accusing me of being offended in this case – well, that just validated the no reason to talk to him and just wind it down.

 

The reason I wind this down is that my experience in other groups on facebook, other people tend to  chime in with additional misunderstandings or well intentions but based on the wrong measureables to problem solve.

 

The reality is that this it my first encounter with this poster and he’s simply demonstrated that he has very little of interest to share and lacks an effective communication style – jumping to conclusions, assigning emotions to me that are not in evidence by my words. so.

 

Not worth blocking, but doubtful to engage him again in the future. We’ll see how he continues to behave in the group.

 

Where he went wrong.

 

Yes, many people experience bad events.

But until you actually exchange information, you can’t actually know if your situation is comparible ore relevant.

 

Certainly, dismissing a person who just said they were in recovery from recent events

is not a good conversation strategy. as being average or typical without knowing the specific nature of the event…

 

not the way to make friends or engage people.

 

not.just.saying

 

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3 Responses to "Living with social anxiety and panic disorder"

Reblogged this on Nina's Garden and commented:

Because there’s no upside to engaging with people who dismiss you or diminish what you are trying to explain or share.

Not the Jackass Whisperer.

not.just.saying

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